Dating Disasters — Don’t Let It Happen To You.
Posted by Alan Bentley | Under Society Thursday Feb 11, 2010You have probably had more than your share of dating disasters if you are reading this article, as you are probably on the lookout for advice or anecdotes to make sure that it won’t happen to you again! Many girls have been through similar experiences and have notated the situation and you can read their advice to best advantage. It wasn’t fun at the time, was it?
Dating disasters come in all shapes and sizes. For example, the guy who you went out with last weekend could have been a real cheapskate. Now we know that we don’t need a millionaire it to be happy, but the opposite is most definitely unpleasant. There’s nothing wrong with being frugal, especially in this type of economy, but there is a way to treat a girl, especially on a first date. Remember, first impressions are important.
Steer clear of a dramatic guy if you don’t want to engage in a dating disaster with him. You need somebody well-rounded and balanced and not someone who likes to talk about gossip and other people’s misfortunes. If he hangs around with people who are overly dramatic and give rise to this kind of story, then he is in the wrong circles for you, so be careful.
Girls are often accused of being needy and it is seldom seen in a guy, but if you come across somebody who is, you are in line for a dating disaster. This is hardly an endearing situation, especially if he won’t leave you alone and is so needy to the point of getting annoying. Chances are he has disappointments and disasters in his own closet, or may even be afraid of rejection.
Remember that if it is too good to be true, then it usually is. Dating disasters are likely to develop into heartbreak if you think you have found a guy unlike any other. They appear to be confident or strong and able to provide for your every wish, but don’t be bowled over by outward appearances. Remember that not one of us is perfect and be careful that he is not hiding some other affairs!
Have you ever met a self-righteous guy who thinks that he knows everything? Maybe this is a product of his upbringing or maybe he feels that he has to be overly assertive in his business or professional life. Often, this kind of behavior can be carried over into personal situations and can be a recipe for a first-time dating disaster of some magnitude. Watch out if he wants to criticize everybody in sight or in earshot.
Many of us have come across the guy with “God’s gift” to women. He might think that he is able to move past all the pleasantries and on to the intimate details in short order. This kind of guy needs to be in your past as soon as possible. Just be polite and firm and move on.
It could be a rite of passage and it may be that we all have to deal with dating disasters just so that we well primed to meet the right guy eventually. We will be stronger due to our experiences and when we meet the girls for a nice drink on a Friday evening, we will have a lot to laugh about!
Writer Alan Bentley has a lot of information to help you avoid dating disasters. A great resource is available at www.cracktheguycode.com.